What's your attachment style?
Six quick questions to find out how you show up in relationships.
September 22, 2026 · 2 min read
Attachment theory started with the psychiatrist John Bowlby and the psychologist Mary Ainsworth in the 1960s and 70s, watching how toddlers reacted when their mothers left a room and came back. Decades later, researchers found the same patterns showing up in adults, in how we handle closeness, distance, and the silence after an unanswered text.
The theory sorts how we relate into a few broad patterns. None of them are "bad", but knowing yours explains a lot of your relationship reflexes.
Answer honestly, not aspirationally.
Whatever you got, it's a starting point, not a life sentence. Attachment styles shift with safe relationships and a bit of self-awareness.
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